面對被愛人死亡的黑暗和悲傷

在她的書開頭的摘錄中,作者 斯蒂芬尼巴頓 解釋了她對自殺的看法,自從她的一位親愛的朋友奪走了自己的生命後,她就開始了。 Steffany尋求答案和理解是一段長期經常痛苦但最終有益的旅程.

我是一位母親。 我是一名註冊護士,經過培訓和執照。 我是一個妻子,一個作家和一個公共演講者。 我是一個失去母親的女兒和一個失去親人的朋友。 我是一個人,與讀過這些詞的人沒什麼不同,他們正在充分利用我所擁有的。

而我所得到的是對那些經歷過失敗的人的深切同情。 我對死亡帶來的情感影響有著深刻的敏感性,而且我強烈希望將自殺倖存者在這種創傷性損失之後的日子和歲月中所表現出來的未表達的情緒用語言表達出來。

自殺死亡的痛苦與永恆的悲痛

除了我的專業學位和大學教育,我是我的一部分,是一名精神學生和老師。 我知道我們不僅僅是原子和分子; 我們是運動中的能量,自由表達的光。 由於能量不能被破壞,只有改變,我才明白,當一個人被摧毀時,其中所含的能量就會發生變化。 它並沒有結束。

Those who commit suicide have a spirit, an energy, that is still somehow, somewhere expressed. And, although I can sense this energy, much like a wine taster can discern subtle notes and nuances in a glass of ?ne wine, my desire in writing this book is to speak to those still living, or perhaps more truly, those struggling, scraping by, existing, with the pain and perpetual grief of a death by suicide.


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I do not believe that suicide is a fate cast, a destiny inevitable. Nor do I believe that we are powerless to intervene when a suicide wish is expressed. On the contrary, I believe that every one of us has the ability to choose our fate and to alter our destiny. Even after a death by suicide, and perhaps especially after this kind of loss, we can, with a willingness of heart and an openness of mind, ?nd a new outlook on life and a gentle way to sooth the wounded heart and welcome a sense of peace.

談論自殺實際上是禁忌

對於那些被遺忘的人來說,自殺是暴力和不仁慈的。 我們作為一種文化迴避死亡,因為它不舒服; 談論自殺實際上是禁忌。 但是,如果我們要創造一個可以預防自殺的文化氛圍,那些被迫落後的人需要被接受,聽到和理解。

Suicide has become a shameful and silent epidemic. According to the CDC, in 2010 suicide ranked as the 10th leading cause of death in Americans; one person dies through self-in?icted means every 13 minutes. Additionally, the incidence of suicide has increased by 1.7 percent over the last decade.

These numbers are high—far too high. Something is missing. We pay lip service to suicide prevention, o?er therapy and emergency intervention, but the numbers still rise. Can suicide be prevented?

是的。

和不

自殺預防從出生開始

我們擁抱所有的孩子作為禮物送給我們的星球,作為我們生活中受歡迎的客人。 我們體現了對地球的溫柔; 我們彼此和我們自己的耐心增長。 我們教導我們的孩子,生命是一個旅程,一項巨大的事業和一項完成的史詩任務,而且每次只能邁出一小步。 我們重視沉默,因為沈默很有價值。

We honor cycles and seasons because there is wisdom and rhythm in the ongoing cycles of nature and the ever-changing seasons of life. We embrace our fragility, our strength, our triumphs, and our vulnerability. We show our children that it is ordinary to struggle but extraordinary to ?nd a way to overcome. We laugh when we feel the urge, and we cry to let go.

我們教這些東西是因為我們願意按照我們的個人真理生活。 當我們接受我們是誰,當我們來到生活中,願意度過風暴,看到過去的黑暗和黎明時,我們有能力扭轉自殺的可怕趨勢。

在被死亡感動後學習生活

And yet, I believe that anyone who is touched by death can learn about life. Death reminds us to take nothing for granted. Death offers us a chance to take inventory of our own lives, to be honest about where we are on our own journey, to rede?ne our goals, our priorities, to be true to who we are.

Those who are left behind after a death by suicide are challenged to ?nd a profound level of courage and faith as they learn to accept that they are guiltless in the suicide and not to blame for the death of another. For many who are left behind, death invites a more spiritual approach to life, a willingness to see beyond that which is measurable fact and into the world of emotion, spirit, and soul.

如果發生了自殺,就無法阻止它

什麼時候自殺不可預防? 如果發生自殺。 我想揭露一個單一的事實:那些自殺者不可能被阻止,或者自殺不會發生。

犯下的自殺是一種無法預防的自殺。 在接受這一點時,有罪將被沖走,那些被羞辱監禁的倖存者將一勞永逸地被釋放。

我相信,當倖存者留下後能夠接受那些為自己的真相而自殺的人,可以開始和平與治療。

慶祝生活!

將另一方的親人視為完美的天使是不恰當的,也不應該以負面的眼光來思考它們。 我們每個人都經歷過好與壞,愛與恐懼,勝利與掙扎,輕鬆時光和困難時期。

沒有“完美”的生活,我們永遠不會停止學習,成長和變化。 我們可以真正地消除內疚,羞恥和對死亡的恐懼,並揭示生命的慶祝!

My goal is to help the bereaved ?nd a voice and to explore tools for healing through understanding the process of living. This means accepting our emotions, choosing to be proactive and responsible in our spiritual growth, learning to be self-aware and willing to give self-care.

體驗生活的新方式

Suicide is not an inevitable fate. But in the event of these circumstances of death, there can be a new way to ?nd hope and to experience life for those left behind.

路徑可能並不總是平滑的; 水可能不是很清楚。 答案很少整齊包裝,包裹在一個整潔的盒子裡。 但這是值得一試的旅程。 生命是一種禮物 - 一種脆弱,強大的寶藏。 我們必須以溫柔的愛和最大的關懷處理所有生活,每個人,無處不在。

We will face the darkness together, and we will ?nd light.

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面對黑暗,尋找光明:Steffany Barton自殺後的生活。面對黑暗,尋找光明:自殺後的生活
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斯蒂芬尼巴頓RN的Steffany Barton是一名專業媒體,對幫助那些受到自殺影響的人有著個人和專業的熱情。 有關Steffany Barton的更多信息,請訪問 http://www.angelsinsight.com